I am not a lover of confrontation. In fact, I will do anything I can to avoid it. As you would imagine that isn’t a great life strategy and I have had to learn to deal with things head on. Even when I know that the discussion isn’t going to be pleasant, it is still better to have it than to let things fester.
In the past two weeks I have been brave and faced my fear of confrontation. Being brave has left me feeling stronger and in control. Although I must admit to feeling emotionally depleted.
Everyone has different demons that they need to face. Mine was confrontation and it became exacerbated by procrastination. I really do not like dealing with some things and will do anything to put it off.
I recently attended a workshop presented by Pat Divilly. He is a truly inspirational man who has faced many demons and is proof that we can overcome whatever situation we are in.
It is a short post today, but an important Wednesday Quotation for me.
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When I was a little girl, I battled with self confidence. I am not being self serving here when I say that I honestly believed that I was fat and not very pretty. I urge every person reading this blog post to go and dig out a picture of your younger self and look at it with adult eyes. You might be surprised. We don’t always value ourselves as we should.
My granny always said, ‘put a price on yourself, and keep it’. When I was very young I wasn’t quite sure what she meant. With the benefit of hindsight and remembering the context, I think she was talking about dating and not giving of yourself too freely!
This message, my quotation this Wednesday, is very true of so many other areas of our lives. I know that I have had to learn to value myself more.
Know what I am worth in the workplace both in terms of money and respect.
Know what I deserve in a relationship and be prepared to wait for it.
Know what I deserve in terms of respecting my body, and feeding myself with healthy food, and doing some exercise.
As a blogger I also need to value what I do and respect my readers. I was recently asked to write a post (a quite contraversial one coming up soon). I thought about it very carefully and decided that I would write the post as it is in line with the context of my blog, and it is something I can honestly endorse. I did however request payment. I politely wrote back and outlined the benefits of working with my blog, my reach and my rate. I was delighted to receive a positive response. I value myself, and through that people will value me.
‘Granny, in all respects of my life, I have put a price on myself and I will keep it – head held high!’
Thank you for reading, I would love to hear your thoughts when you have looked at your old photos. I was pleasantly surprised.
Change is inevitable. Marilyn Monroe is a woman that divides. I admire her and am often drawn to her quotes. I think that to an extent she was misunderstood, but behind the blond curly locks and sexy voice was a very wise woman.
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
I was musing on 2015 and realised that so far it has been a year of two halves. For the first 6 months I was happily living in Westport, working away at my job, with a great social life and a fabulous circle of friends in Mayo.
The second half has been all about change. I found a new job in Galway – which was the first domino in a series of changes. I left my beautiful flat,and now know that I would have been given notice anyway as the owners were moving back! I bade farewell to familiar streets that I walked every day greeting people along the way.
The transition was not easy, but now I am starting to realise that this quote is true. New things are starting to fall together. I am writing this sitting in my lovely new home, contemplating putting on a fire with a pot of soup on the stove waiting for my dinner guest.
I have found new ways to exercise and am walking regularly.
I am closer to my family and am rekindling old friendships and making new ones.
I have new challenges in the workplace that are allowing me to exercise my mind.
So, thank you Marilyn for those wise words of inspiration.
Thank you for reading and I hope you enjoy my Wednesday quotation.
I love walking. No matter how tired I am, if I push myself (or am pushed by a friend) and I get my trainers on and get out and walk, I always feel much better.
I used to be the most sincerely unfit person. When I think back a good few years, even walking a short distance, say to the corner shop, would have me thinking of taking the car. I had all sorts of excuses as to why my sedentary lifestyle was ok. Little did I know that walking could make a huge difference not only to my physical health but my mental health.
Today’s quote is from the oh so fabulous Winnie the Pooh (AA Milne), is a reminder that while we are walking for exercise, walking with a friend adds another dimension.
Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead
Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow
Just walk beside me and be my friend.
I am so honoured to have friends who walk beside me,on actual walks and generally in life.
Today’s quote is going out to all my friends who have encouraged me on my fitness journey and taken the time to walk by my side. (You know who you are!)
My very wise big sister shared this concept with me. It was during a time when I had a lot on my plate – big mountains indeed.
She told me a story about her daughter. As a little girl she was faced with a lot to do – homework, projects and more. My sister asked her young daughter and how she would eat an elephant. The answer is simply – bite by bite. I know that so many times in my life I have been faced with an enormous elephant sized challenge and sometimes I simply can’t figure out where to start. Then I remember the elephant and break it down into bite-sized chunks.
I have recently started a new job and believe me, after a couple of days I realised I was facing an elephant. So much to learn with so many different aspects to the job. I am not quite finished eating this particular elephant, but I have broken the challenges down into smaller chunks and in many cases smaller tasks again.
The first split was to figure out what was urgent and had to be done. Then look at those tasks that would make a real difference and then finally some of the tasks and marketing ideas that are great, but can wait.
Unpacking my house, dealing with my health and many other challenges are always easier bite sized.
Thank you Janet for teaching me this valuable lesson, which I use in so many parts of my life.
Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoyed this Wednesday’s quotation.
….. there are many people who have been very nice, and none that have been naughty.
I have a lot to be thankful for. Over the last couple of months I have been through a bit. I have moved home twice, started a new job, said farewell to friends and hello to new friends.
Throughout it all, there has been one constant. Gratitude. I have so very much to be thankful for. My family and friends near and far have been there for me.
Sometimes it is the big things like a the gift of a holiday or a bed for a month that I am extremely grateful for, but then again there are those smaller things that simply come along at just the right time when you need them.
The day I moved to my new home I had so much help. I simply could not have done it without the kindness of others.
I was moved in and was surrounded by boxes and memories, all the helpers had left and I must admit I was feeling a bit sorry for myself. A little bit lonely to be honest. The next thing I was greeted at my front door by a fellow South African I had ‘met’ on Facebook. She had those moving day essentials, a bottle of wine and a cake!
I am no good at scrubbing and cleaning because it hurts my hands. How blessed am I to have a friend who came and cleaned my bathrooms for me. True friendship,
I have honestly been so humbled when I wrote my gratitude list. It is something quite personal but very important.to remind us of the true meaning of gratitude.
This definition is very true. It is not enough to simply be thankful. We need to show appreciation and return kindness.It is also really important that amidst the hustle and bustle of life, it is important to make a call, send a text or even send a card to say thank you.
I challenge you to make a gratitude list.
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We all have limits. I know I have reached mine when I am ‘crying tired’. It was my mom who first used that phrase. It really is so descriptive.
Yesterday I reached crying tired. I have been putting my all into learning my new job, where I have literally hit the ground running. Throw in horrific traffic problems where it is taking me up to an hour and a half in stop start traffic to travel a normal 20 minute journey. And then for a final flourish add in packing up my home.
In addition to this I had reached the end of my ‘battery life’. Let me explain, I have pernicious anaemia. As I cannot absorb B12 through my tummy – and B12 is what oxygenates your blood – I have to have it injected on a regular basis. I compare myself to a battery operated toy. Twenty-four hours after receiving my injection I am at full battery capacity. The couple of days before it is due and I am really run down and tired.
I am not looking for sympathy here, just explaining how I came to reach my limits.
The only problem is that when you do reach your limits sometimes you have no option but to push through them. I had to get up early this morning to travel to work, put my brave face on and handle the job in front of me. I had to think up some solutions to my move which is was becoming a logistical nightmare and simply push on. Giving up isn’t an option.
Today as I am reading the post I am calm. I pushed beyond my limits – not quite sure how, but I found that extra 10 percent needed to keep going. I had a great day and am now fully ‘charged’.
Next time I get crying tired, I need to remember to keep pushing beyond my limits.
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