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What is dignity?   And why is it so important?

Dignity is a complex state and something that I truly believe that everyone deserves.  Dignity is the state or quality of being worthy of honour or respect

My blog is all about being fabulous despite the circumstances of your life.  Despite the curveballs that life throws at you.  Your dignity is something that is truly integral to your fabulousness no matter what age, gender or circumstance.

A little about me

Over the past five years (and a bit more perhaps) a lot of things have come across my path. I have been a victim of gaslight bullying in the work place. My health as also been a huge struggle, most especially with my arthritis, which has been stripping me of some of the things that I perhaps took for granted.  It is some of these situations that has made me realise how important dignity is.

If dignity has been stripped from you – for whatever reason, it isn’t the easiest thing to get back. Walking tall and acting confident when you are crippled with pain or humiliation is hard.  The first time I walked out with Stan, my trusty walking stick was hard.  Not simply because I thought people would be looking at me and questioning , but because I felt vulnerable.

Vulnerability is closely linked with dignity.

When I feel vulnerable, be it a situation when I had to return to the office after a humiliating dressing down, or when I had to introduce Stan to my date.  I feel vulnerable when I am faced with a plate of dinner that I know I cannot cope with (there are days when I cannot cut my food because of pain in my hands, and many days when I know I will be decorating my clothes with the food that I might spill).  I feel vulnerable when I need to ask for assistance to carry my tray in a restaurant and even on a very bad day when I cannot pick up a cup of tea.

There are days like this – perhaps more than I would like.  After several attempts, trying to get my essential fix of tea, I realised that lifting the cup was not an option.  I asked for a straw which was delivered with a smile and with an attitude that didn’t make me feel vulnerable.  This kind woman understood dignity.

We are all different

No two people are alike and there are many people living with disabilities both visible and invisible.  This month is autism Awareness month and I am delighted to hear of many supermarkets introducing shopping hours where attention has been paid to decreasing light, sounds and other sensory stimuli.  I will certainly be taking note of these.  As a result of my conditions I am hypersensitive and find shopping overwhelming at the best of times.

Invisible disabilities (very like me on a good day when I don’t have my stick or hand splints)  are exactly that.  They are invisible.  These include depression, arthritis, fibromyalgia, lupus, and MS just as a start.  Anybody going about what seems like daily life with these conditions is fighting an uphill battle and dignity is part of that.

So how can we help people to maintain their dignity?

  • Firstly as mentioned above we don’t know who is struggling.  So why not show everyone respect.  It is old-fashioned I know but if you are sitting on a train or tube and know that you are ok to stand, offer your seat.  I promise there is someone who is struggling to stand and maintain balance.
  • Be aware.  It takes so little to hold a door open, to perhaps notice that someone needs a little help, perhaps with carrying a tray or a cup of coffee.  Perhaps allowing someone to go ahead of you in the queue.  These are all little actions that will allow someone to maintain their dignity and not feel quite so vulnerable.
  • In close relationships, family and friends who know what someone is going through it is both easier and harder.  My advice would be to again be aware, be conscious of what things might be difficult, and simply help silently.  I had visitors over the Easter weekend and every day I realised that little things had happened.  My bin had been cleaned thoroughly, the back garden was tidied, the dishwasher had been packed and unpacked.  I didn’t ask for help, but it was given.  And I am so grateful.
  • Acceptance is key.  If there is a person in your life who is disabled in any way, simply accepting them for who they are is a wonderful gift of dignity.  When I was in a new relationship, I was shy about introducing Stan the Stick.  Eventually we were going on a trip and I knew I would need the support of my stick.  I remember asking my Mom.  If he doesn’t accept Stan he isn’t the man for you.  Wise woman!  I just loved the day when he suggested bringing Stan out with us.

 

My tool kit for coping

It may seem odd, but the little things I do for myself to feel better, and to maintain my dignity are important to me.

I like looking good.  I love my fashion and style.  If I am going out (and even sometimes staying in) choosing great clothes, doing my hair and spending time on my make-up give me that added confidence boost.

I also of course rely on the old favourites of pain relief, mindfulness and rest.  A great day out feeling totally dignified has a lot of planning behind it.

Thank you to all the wonderful people who I share my life with.  My friends who know and the strangers who don’t.  Allowing me my dignity is a gift.

 

Thank you for reading

Kerry xx

 

An added bonus ingredient from The Body Shop makes me smile

Body shop Vitamin E Fabulicousfifty

I first heard of hyaluronic acid last year – and the more I read about it the more it made sense to me.  It is a little bit of magic that locks moisture into your skin.

Hyaluronic Acid is found naturally in the body and acts as a moisture magnet trapping up to 1000 times its own weight – excellent for the odd wrinkle.

I am getting a little bit older, and I am becoming more conscious of aging.  I am not looking to age backwards, but to simply be the best I can be.  Looking after my skin is a priority and I don’t have a big budget to do that.

I was delighted when I saw that the Body Shop Vitamin E range now has the added bonus included hyaluronic acid.

This product range, which now has some new family members ticks all my boxes.  My skin is quite dry and I find that the moisture is really locked in as promised.

I was lucky enough to have access to one of those magic wand things you see in the shops that measure the moisture in your skin.  The science geeky side of me likes being able to back up my gut feeling on a product range – the difference before and after was significant.

The products I tried are the Aqua Boost Essence lotion which is not a cream but neither is it a liquid.  It is deliciously cooling and leaves me feeling really refreshed especially during the hot weather.  I follow this with the Moisture Protect Emulsion which is silky smooth.

All the products have a fresh fragrance (I am fussy about things like that), and I know that all the ingredients are natural and pure, which means quite a lot.

I have been using these products for a good few weeks and I am delighted with them.

I was given these products to test, but was not paid for this review.  I reviewed it because it fits my ethos about our right to feel fabulous!

Thanks for reading.

Kerry x

 

Beauty review: Kinvara Skincare Rosehip Serum

kinvara skincare

I am a sucker for beauty products, and especially ones that make promises.  My sister told me about the Rosehip Serum from Kinvara Skincare, and I just had to try it.  I got lucky because a few days later there was a discount voucher online, and so I treated myself to a bottle.

A couple of days later it arrived and even the packaging excited me.

Aromatherapy is a hobby of mine, and the wafts of citrussy freshness from this serum is so refreshing and uplifting.  I use it in the morning and it is my wake-up smell.  My reviews here will always be honest so I have to say that the only thing I don’t like about this product is the slight stickiness after application.  It goes on under my make-up so that this only lasts a minute or two.  It is absorbed really quickly and I find it refreshing compared to other creamy moisturisers, really ideal under make-up.

I have been using it for a few months and I think my skin is definitely less red, and it feels soft.  I am delighted that so little goes a long way, and my bottle should last me 6 months – great value at 28 Euro.

I was asked by a friend what to buy her sister (another fabulous lady) for her birthday.  There wasn’t even a minute’s hesitation before I recommended the Rosehip Serum.

Fit, fat and fabulous!

Life LoveLife (2)I had a fantastic day yesterday!

A little history first though.  I have always struggled with my weight.  I have also always struggled with my fitness levels, never really believing that I could do anything sporty.  I huffed and puffed and found excuses not to do sport at school.

A few years ago a health scare or two had me buy my first pair of trainers in years.  I started walking. At first I could only walk for a short while, but slowly I extended the length of my walks, and then the intensity.

I think I only realised how fit I had become when I went beach walking (my favourite type of walk) with my teenage son.  Off we went and the next thing I hear him behind me.  ‘Who are you and what have you done with my Mother?’, he said.

I will be honest here and say it is really hard to keep up with my walking and fitness.  Because of the health challenges I face there are days, and sometimes weeks where I simply cannot exercise.  I have however kept fit.

Walking is so important especially for diabetics!

  •  I walk whenever I can – even if it is to the post office
  • I have a mini-trampoline which has a permanent place in my living room
  • I have two flights of stairs in my house which I bound up and down many times a day
  • I go for longer walks whenever I can

Yesterday was one of those days.  A beautiful spring day and my friend Ruth and I off to walk on the beach. When we arrived I started taking photographs – some of which will be on my other blog very soon – Kerry Buí Creates.  We walked along the water line enjoying the chat and strolling along.  And then …..

Ruth suggested we walk on the dunes.  The new Kerry says ‘I can’ and then thinks about it so off I went.  When I struggled up the pebbled bank I worried a little but, when I got the dunes I really started to wonder if I could.  You can Kerry.  Up and down the dunes, sometimes wondering if I would have to resort to my hands and knees, we scrambled through the sand and grass.  At the highest point I stopped and realised that I still had a long way to get back to the car.  We did it though, and I was really proud of myself.

I am a fabulous curvy woman but that doesn’t have to stop anyone from enjoying and embracing fitness.

Roll on summer.

Thanks for reading

Kerry xx

Fruit water – my cure!

All good things for cleaning my insides
All good things for cleaning my insides

When I am feeling in need of a bit of a me day, fruit water is my answer.  Ideally I make it up the night before, and then leave it steeping overnight and then start drinking in the morning.

This batch of fruit water was cucumber, lemon and celery, but I do vary it.  My favourite fruit is pineapple, so sometimes I make that the hero.  A bunch of mint is another great addition. All citrus is good too.  In summer I might add some ice cubes, but I think a cleansing drink is better at room temperature.

Throughout the day, I add water and aim to drink at least 2 litres in total.

Plan a day when you are staying at home as you will be running ….  And in my case that adds in exercise as my bathrooms are a flight of stairs away from my living room.  It may be my imagination, but I think my skin glows and I have more energy the next day.

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